No, not mine. I said I wasn't going to talk about it. I really wasn't. That was my full intention but after seeing "the episode" of Jon & Kate Plus 8 & crying over what is happening to them, I am going to talk about it.
What I am not going to do, bash them. They are humans & have feelings. Although I would not choose their lifestyle, I respect them. They are going through tremendous pressure, whether they brought it on themselves or what ever other reason people are saying is irrelevant.
I think this needs to be talked about. Why is it that HOM families have a higher divorce rate? Could it be the stress of having 3+ children at one time, creating an instant larger than average family? Could it be that most couples experienced some kind of infertility before hand & that put stress on the relationship prior to the pregnancy? Could it just be that having a baby is hard, whether it is 1, 2, 3, or more? What is the cause?
I don't want to say we are better than any other family out there b/c trust me when I say this, we have had our fair share of arguments in this first year of the kids' lives. I'll even admit, the thought has crossed my mind on how it would be to have to care for these 3 kids by myself & honestly, that scared me enough to figure out the issue at hand & work on it.
Marriage is so easy bail out on now days. You can even file your own paperwork w/o the help of an attorney. It doesn't cost much to do unless you are going to fight about who gets what & custody. I've been through it before. Yep, I am in the official stats. Thankfully, no children were attached to that short lived marriage.
What is different about this time? Besides having kids? Lots. I'm a much different person. I think that marriages are really hard. Don't get me wrong, they can be really enjoyable but there is always the flip side. For every up, there is a down. Marriages don't escape that rule. Yeah, there are times I rather just think about myself & not deal w/ considering anyone else but that is just not an option anymore. I have 3 precious children that deserve a complete family. I will do what ever it takes to make it work. End of story.
Now, for Jon & Kate. They have quite a few resources at their fingertips. They need to get some counseling & work through their issues, individually & as a couple. Seeing how worn down Jon looks & the anger & defeat Kate was exuding just really tugged at my heart strings. Maybe I'm a sucker. I don't think they signed up for all this. Sure, it is one thing to share your life w/ 8 children thinking that it wouldn't ever get as big as it has gotten BUT it is completely different to see your dirty laundry on the cover of a tabloid. No one ever signs up for that. How absolutely horrifying, more so for those precious babies than anyone else, but horrifying just the same.
I really hope they can work things out. It breaks my heart to see anyone go through a divorce. It isn't fun, no matter the circumstances. I'm tired of hearing that Kate was a tyrant & that Jon isn't the father that he needs to be. What? How do we know what really goes on behind closed doors? Really? We don't know everything. Whether you think they sold out their family or that Kate is fame hungry, ask yourself if this is what they really envisioned b/c when I saw that episode last night, I could see the pain & desperation in both of their faces. I could see both of them have been beaten down by everything & are tired. I can see that they are both questioning everything that has taken place in the past 5 years. I haven't seen anything in their show that makes me think they deserve this. I think it is safe to say we all have skeletons in our closet & probably have treated our significant others in ways we wouldn't treat a dog. Who are we to judge?
Rather than pick up that tabloid, think about whether you would want your dirty laundry out there for everyone to read & critique. I leave you with this quote from the Bible.
"So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."